Unlearning (Part 2)
2 min readAug 20, 2020
A running list of things to consider unlearning as a Nigerian adult with sense.
In Unlearning Part 1, I mentioned that the process of unlearning does not have an ideal start or end date — it is a journey distinctive to each person. The goal here is that when you know better, you try to do better. Here are more things to consider unlearning as a Nigerian adult with sense.
- If you struggle with learning some things, it does not mean you are inadequate. We all have strengths and areas of weaknesses.
- Try to break the habit of constantly criticizing yourself — it does only one thing — put you down. Try words of affirmation, it does wonders.
- Try not to spend your entire adulthood cringing at past beliefs, practices, and convictions — we all have those moments/periods. It is a sign of growth.
- Get comfortable with apologizing when you are wrong or called out for hurting others feelings. It is completely fine to change your mind when you get more information on an issue.
- Women, it is not your duty in your “ship” to make things always appear as though they are fine especially when they are not. Growing up, I always disliked how the women around me were the PR gurus in their relationships/marriages, charged with maintaining the image of a happy home, a close-knit family, and an imperfect partner.
- It is okay if everything is not great at the moment, it is not a reflection of your effort or abilities. Life always has its ways of humbling you and it is fine.
Try to dey enjoy, problem no dey finish (Zikoko, 2020).
- Make it a point to self reflect, self reflection is a path towards self realization and self growth. Be careful not to make this about self critique or becoming overly self-conscious - this should be an exercise to help you identity gaps in behavior especially towards people in your life.
Thanks for reading! If you enjoyed it, please check out some of my previously published stories.
